Tsis meej hais txog qhov zoo ntawm tus neeg

Zoo-paub phenomenon ntawm "Jewish niam" uas pe hawm nyob rau hauv koj tus me nyuam cov pawm thiab tus me nyuam txhawb: "Izzy, koj yog ib tug ntse heev!". Yog hais tias tus xib fwb yuav tau hais lus phem heev ntawm nws tus me nyuam, nws hais tias: "Izzy! Peb nyob ntawm no tsis to taub. Peb mus rau lwm lub tsev kawm ntawv. " Lavxias teb sab yog sawing: "John, koj yog ib tug neeg ruam." Kev tu me nyuam raws li nashkodivshego miv: "Tsis txhob mus, tsis txhob qw, shit, dab tsi yuav tua tau koj li roj bastard Go ua si nrog ib tug pob!?!" Thiab ces lawv xav yog vim li cas cov kws tshawb fawb, ntxias, bankers thiab players raws li neeg Yudas. Ntawm daim card yog yooj yim: loj hlob ntseeg cov neeg raws li lub ntuj tshwm sim ntawm ib tug respectful kev kawm ntawv. Insecurities qia los ntawm yuam kev nyob rau hauv kev kawm ntawv.

Tus me nyuam qog lub tshua ntawm uncertainty, tsis paub pab cov niam txiv rau lub neej txheej xwm. Rau xyoo ua ntej nws lub siab yog tsis muaj peev xwm ua khoom cov ntaub ntawv yog ib qho tseem ceeb. Direct los yog indirect teeb meem tswv yim, kev ntseeg, xeeb ceem, prejudices, misconceptions thiab stereotypes ntawm kev xav cov niam txiv coob uncertainty rau nws lub caij nplooj zeeg ncaj qha mus rau tus me nyuam txoj kev subconscious. Los ntawm no khib uncertainty generated txoj kev zoo nkauj pob paj - nws system ntawm cov tswv yim txog lub neej. Direct teeb meem suggestion - ib tug kab lus zoo li, "koj tsis tsim nyog muaj no ',' tsis yog Senka cap", "koj yuav tsis", "tsis txawm sim," "qhov chaw uas koj", "yuav yog ib lub neej ua si rau cov neeg ruam thiab cov phab ntsa los ntawm attaching ". Indirect phiv suggestion, "tab sis yog koj yuav ua hauj lwm rau kev tshaib kev nqhis tsis tuag" (implicit suggestion: "Koj yuav nrhiav tsis tau ib tug dlej txoj hauj lwm," "koj muaj peev xwm tuag ntawm kev tshaib kev nqhis"), "koj tsawg kawg yog ib co, tab sis nws tus txiv" (implicit suggestion: "koj yog - dab tuag", "koj tsis nrhiav ib tug zoo txiv"), thiab lwm yam insidious nqe lus nyob rau hauv tib ntsuj plig. Nyob rau hauv lwm yam lus, lub uncertainty yog tsis innate zoo. Tsis meej - ib yam khoom ntawm socialization.

Thiab tam sim no, ib tug diffident zeej kauj ruam mus rau hauv cov neeg laus ntiaj teb no. Tab sis mus cuag lub hom phiaj , nws tsis tau vim hais tias ntawm tsis muaj txoj kev ntseeg nyob rau hauv lawv tus kheej. Puas tau txij thaum yau, nws yog kawm tau hais tias tag nrho nws cov kev ua yuav puas tsuaj vim rau tsis ua hauj lwm. Cuag koj tus kheej ib tug me txiv neej, kab laum, nws overstates lub kwv yees ntawm lwm lub ntiaj teb no. Piv txwv li, lub hom phiaj yog mus rau lub tsev kawm ntawv nyob rau hauv pem hauv ntej ntawm nws. Tsis ntseeg nyob rau hauv lawv cov peev xwm, nyob rau hauv ib tes, thiab lub awe ntawm txoj cai ntawm lub University, nyob rau hauv lwm cov tes, nws ntog mus rau hauv ib tug stupor, rau consternation. Sab nraud tseem ceeb tsev kawm ntawv txais neeg kawm yog tsho tos, thiab rau sab hauv lawm ua tus sau nrog qhov tseem ceeb ntawm cov tsis muaj txoj kev ntseeg nyob rau hauv lawv lub peev xwm. Merged, lawv ua tsis khab seeb. Tag nrho cov zog mus rau hauv cov kev ntxhov siab vim, ntxhov siab vim thiab kev ntshai. Nyob rau lub zog xeem nyob.

Tsis meej - nws yog cog qoob loo, diluted nrog kev ntshai thiab kev tswm seeb rau qhov tseem ceeb ntawm sab nraum lub ntiaj teb no. Tsis meej coj mus rau lub neej los ntawm ob lub ntsiab yam tseem ceeb: internal - thiab lwm ntshai - reverence rau sab nraum, ib tug overestimation ntawm cov khoom thiab tshwm sim ntawm ib ncig lub ntiaj teb no (tseem ceeb). Tsis meej imbued nrog ntshai. Piv txwv li, ib tug neeg yog ntshai ua luam dej (ntshai), xav hais tias nws tsis tau zoo (uncertainty). Los yog lwm cov piv txwv: ib tug neeg xav tau ib tug taug kev nyob rau hauv lub yav tsaus ntuj, tab sis pom tau tias insecure vim hais tias ntawm cov neeg ntawm kev thab plaub nyob rau hauv lub koog tsev kawm ntawv. Thaum nws kawm tau hais tias cov koog tsev kawm ntawv cov tub ceev xwm patrolled hauv txoj kev, ntshai yog ploj mus, thiab nrog nws lub meej.

Leej twg muaj uncertainty thiab tsis xis nyob, ua rau sab nraum lub cheeb tsam ntawm nws tsis txawj txaus. Piv txwv li, lub oligarch tiag mob tsiaj aub. Nws txoj cai "shakes lub cog qoob loo." Kev cog qoob loo, ntawm chav kawm, tsis muaj ib tug kab yuav. Muaj kev ntshai, thiab tsis paub tseeb. Nws tau txais mus rau hauv ib tug turbulent cheeb tsam ntawm tsis paub tseeb. Thiab tam sim no nws yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws kws kho tsiaj. Ib tug kws kho tsiaj - uncertainty nyob rau hauv cov nyiaj txiag affairs ntawm ib tug neeg, tab sis ib tug yeej muaj tseeb kev nyob rau hauv lawv lub teb. Yog li ntawd nws puv tawm: nyob rau hauv nyiaj txiag vet pom tau tias insecure nyob rau hauv kev sib piv nrog rau cov oligarch thiab oligarch pom tau tias insecure nyob rau hauv cov kev kho mob teb, nyob qhov twg lub kws kho tsiaj pom tau tias ntseeg.

Tsis meej - nws yog cog qoob loo rau cov opposite kos npe rau. Raws li kev cog qoob loo, nws nyob tsis tau tsuas yog los ntawm kev ntshai, tab sis kuj nyob rau hauv lwm yam thiab tej yam. Peb sim los ua pov thawj rau kuv tus kheej thiab lub ntiaj teb no ntawm lawv tus kheej tseem ceeb. Nws yuav siv sij hawm tus tsov ntxhuav feem ntawm peb lub zog. Thaum koj muab tau lub siab los lo tawm thiab ua pov thawj rau sawv daws tias koj yog ib tug zoo thiab tseem ceeb, thiab yuav cia li ntsiag to txog kev mus rau nws qhov tseem ceeb, nyob ib ncig involuntarily xav tias nws. Koj tus kheej thiab nws tus kheej-tseem ceeb yuav tau sib npaug zos rau cov kev ntsuam xyuas ntawm lwm tus neeg. Lwm yam thib rau kev txiav txim zoo twb paub lawm koj tseem ceeb.

Nyob insecure neeg, piv txwv li ib tug neeg uas tsis muaj self-esteem, raws li cov rab ntaj ntawm Damocles hangs tseem ceeb ntawm txhua lwm. Qhov teeb meem no yog aggravated tias qhov no yog tov thiab txawm txhaum. Txij li thaum tseem yog menyuam yaus insecurity txau rau txoj kev xav ntawm kev txhaum thiab drags nws raws li retsedivist txoj kev ntseeg. Li no cov kev xav ntawm inadequacy, inferiority thiab unworthiness. Nrog xws hnab nqa taug kev lub neej mus sluggish, indecisive thiab nruab nrab. Nyob rau tib lub sij hawm, ib tug kev xav ntawm kev txhaum tsiaj zoo li yoov nyob rau hauv lub thoob khib nyiab, manipulators. Ua si rau kev txhaum, lawv yuam koj mus nrhiav pov thawj thiab ua pov thawj ib yam dab tsi. Koj tsis muaj zog thiab loj hlob tuaj lawv paub tsis meej, thiab lawv hais rau lawv tus kheej nyob rau hauv koj cov nyiaj them. Ua excuses rau lwm tus neeg, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob.

Qhia koj tus kheej: "Kuv muaj txhua txoj cai yuav tsum tau koj tus kheej: zoo siab thiab tu siab, ua txhaum, ua kom lub" tsis yog "nyob rau hauv cov nqe lus ntawm lwm yam kev ua los tiv thaiv, Yog hais tias kuv ua txhaum rau. Kuv muaj txoj cai kom muaj thiab qhia lawv txoj kev xav, kev ntsuam xyuas thiab kev xav yog pum thiab apologizing. Kuv muaj txoj cai kom muab nws tus kheej tseem ceeb thiab yuav tsum tau nws tus kheej, dua li cov kev xav ntawm lwm tus neeg. Yuav kom hais tias "tsis muaj" tsis muaj muaj txim. "

Tsis muaj leej twg muaj txoj cai los txiav txim rau nej. Xa manipulators tsev. Nco ntsoov, koj tseem ceeb mus rau lub tsev hais plaub yog zaum kawg. Tib txoj kev koj yuav tau txais tshem ntawm lub mob siab ntawm kev txhaum. Nyob rau hauv lwm yam lus, ceasing sib ntaus rau lawv qhov tseeb thiab tsis muaj lub siab xav mus nrhiav pov thawj rau koj txiav txim siab cov lus nug ntawm nws cov sab hauv tseem ceeb. Nws yog cia li, thiab yog manifested nyob rau hauv ob hom: ntxhov siab vim txog nws tus kheej-muaj nqis thiab ib tug nkag siab ntawm kev txhaum.

Koj tsis muaj dab tsi rau leej twg, thiab leej twg tsis tshuav dab tsi. Koj hlub koj tsev neeg. Tu txog nws txoj kev ntseeg. Quab yuam thiab txoj kev ntseeg - yog ob tug loj sib txawv. Cov ntseeg yog tsis muaj nyiaj npaj thiab kev yuam. Txhua tus neeg uas encroach rau koj tus kheej ib thaj tsam, hais tias, "Kuv tsis yuav tsum tau ib tug tim tswv. Tag nrho cov neeg yog tsis txhaum. Kuv tsis muaj kom tau raws li cov miv nyuas ntawm lwm tus, kom rhuav leeg thiab txi lawv cov hom phiaj kuv muaj lwm leej lwm tus. "

Nyob rau hauv tas li ntawd mus rau lub nrog, koj yuav tsum tseem tas nrog lwm tseem ceeb, uas yog manifested nyob rau hauv lub uncertainty thiab complexity ntawm cov teeb meem. Cov hais tias "Nws yog ib txwm zoo muaj, qhov muaj yog tsis muaj peb," cia li tawm ntawm no series. Puas exaggerate qhov tseem ceeb ntawm cov khoom ntawm lub ntiaj teb no. Qhov no ua rau nyob tsis tswm thiab ntxhov siab vim. Piv txwv li, koj xav tau ib txoj hauj lwm, tab sis tsis xav txog koj tus kheej tsim nyog ntawm kev kawm txoj haujlwm - tus kheej-tsis ntseeg ua rau nws tus kheej lawm. Mus tua rau txoj hauj lwm - qhov no tsis yog koj cov txheej txheem thiab cov style ntawm tus cwj pwm. Koj yuav muaj kev txhawj xeeb thiab tshee xaub rau hauv kev nyuaj siab. Cov cwj pwm txawv yuav noj tag nrho cov zog. Yog hais tias koj consciously pib dua lub aura ntawm qhov tseem ceeb rau lub txoj hauj lwm thiab twb paub lawm tias tsis gods huam, feem ntau yuav koj yuav siv qhov no txoj hauj lwm. Nws hloov tawm hais tias nyob rau hauv thiaj li yuav ua tau txoj hauj lwm uas koj siab raws li, nws tsuas yog tsim nyog los txo qhov tseem ceeb ntawm tus ncej. Lub zog uas tau yav tas los siv rau mercilessly muaj lawv worthlessness, thiab tam sim no mus txog rau lub unobtrusive kev nthuav qhia rau cov chaw ua hauj lwm lawv zoo tshaj plaws zoo.

Txawm tsiaj yuav raug ntes tau nyob rau hauv ib tug exaggeration ntawm qhov tseem ceeb ntawm cov khoom ntawm cov sab nraud ntiaj teb no. Nyob rau TV, peb qhia zaj dab neeg txog lub thoroughbred stallion, uas yuav tsis muab lawv ua khub nrog cov maum. Nws nrhiav lub zoo nkauj tshaj plaws mares, thiab txhua lub sij hawm lub stallion muab nyob rau hauv rau lawv. Ces muaj ib lub chaw thau nkoj to taub. Nws smeared av nkos zoo nkauj maum thiab stallion ciaj sia nws nce. Qhov ua kom yuam yog hais tias kev zoo nkauj ntawm ib tug stallion paub txaj muag, tab sis thaum nws smeared, smeared nrog av nkos, nws pom tau hais tias nws yog tsis zuj zus los yog zoo dua. Txiv neej feem ntau tham txog yuav ua li cas tus nees.

Feem ntau insecure txiv neej nrhiav kev paub ntawm tus kheej-tseem ceeb mus rau lub ntiaj teb sab nraum los ntawm boorish thiab khav tus cwj pwm. Yuav kom qhov no kawg, nws muaj peev xwm poob ntsej muag rau lwm tus neeg, coj aggressively. Boors thiab insolent - yog insecure neeg. Nyob rau hauv thiaj li yuav sov ua licas vajhuam nws tus kheej, los ua pov thawj rau lawv tus kheej lawv qhov tseem ceeb, lawv yuav pib mus qhia arrogance thiab ua lwj ua liam.

Nrog kev xav txog cov uncertainty: cov ntsiab lus nyob rau hauv ib tug tsis ruaj tsis khov ib puag ncig thiab tsis muaj tag nrho cov ntaub ntawv txog yavtom ntej cov txheej xwm, peb yuav tsum ua cas tswj cov kev txaus ntshai. Peb tsis txhob ua rau cov kev muaj tiag ntawm qhov teeb meem no, thiab cov uncertainty ntawm no muaj tiag. Nrog rau cov uncertainty tsis tau muaj kev tswj. Siv lub cheeb tsam ntawm lub lag luam los yog nyiaj txiag. Ua lag ua luam - yog qhov uas yuav muaj. Yog hais tias peb tsis siv sij hawm txoj kev pheej hmoo, ces peb tsis tau khwv tsis tau dab tsi. Leej twg tsis raug, hais tias, raws li peb paub, tsis txhob haus dej haus cawv nyob rau hauv tsev rau txim yog tsis zaum. Koj yuav tsum siv nws yooj yim tsis meej raws li mus rau kev tsis pom nrias givens. Peb tag nrho cov nyob rau hauv tib tej yam kev mob nyob rau tib lub nkoj lub neej. Lub ntsiab nco tseem ceeb, thiab tsis meej yuav ploj.