Perfectionism: Yuav ua li cas yog nws? Tej yam tshwm sim thiab yuav ua li cas tau tshem

Yuav ua li cas ua kom noob neej hloov mus rau qhov zoo, rau evolve, mus cuag ambitious cov hom phiaj? Ntawm cov hoob kawm, tus caum qab ntawm qhov zoo tagnrho thiab zoo meej. Txawm li cas los, qhov no muaj siab los yog raws li nws yog hu ua, perfectionism yog tsis ib txwm zoo rau cov tib neeg psyche. Yuav ua li cas los mus txiav txim leej point ntawm uas muaj lub siab xav mus ua lub ntiaj teb no thiab nws tus kheej yuav zoo meej obsessive pathological lub tswv yim? Wb soj ntsuam.

Perfectionism: Yuav ua li cas yog nws?

Zoo nkauj yooj yim rau twv lub hauv paus chiv keeb ntawm lo lus no. Nws los ntawm cov lus Askiv zoo tag nrho (Rus. "Perfection"). Zaum ntseeg tau hais tias lub phenomenon ntawm perfectionism yog txuam nrog rau cov ancient lub sij hawm. Nws yog ces hais tias cov neeg tau kawm kom paub daws nrog kev tshaib kev nqhis thiab tej yam ntuj tso ntsiab los tsim ib tug xis chaw rau lub neej thiab tig mus rau sab ntsuj plig, sab hauv sab ntawm nws tus cwj pwm. Nws yog tsis muaj kev huam yuaj ntau cov tsev kawm ntawv uas yog kev xav sawv thaum lub sij hawm lub sij hawm no. Txawm li cas los, peb yuav tsum tau paub qhov txawv ntawm kev tau zoo heev dictated los ntawm tej yam ntuj tso txug ntawm nws pathological daim ntawv no, uas yog qhia nyob rau hauv lub negation ntawm tiav. Raws li ib tug tus kheej cov yam ntxwv perfectionism zoo muaj feem xyuam rau ib tug neeg nyob rau hauv cov nqe lus ntawm kev txhim kho lawv cov kev sib raws li txoj cai, tus kheej kev txawj ntse, ua hauj lwm kev loj hlob thiab lwm yam. Lub pathological daim ntawv no yog neurotic mob, xav xav tau nrog ib tug xav txog tej yam zoo tagnrho thiab zoo meej tshwm sim, uas muaj peev xwm tsis tau tiav. Tam sim no kuv xav tias koj yuav tsis tau wondering: "Perfectionism - qhov no yog" Tab sis muaj lwm: "Yuav ua li cas los mus txiav txim ntawm nws lub xub ntiag?"

pov thawj

Perfectionism, tus nqi uas peb ntsuam xyuas saum toj no, muaj ob peb yam ntxwv nta:

- txoj kev ua unattainable los yog excessively tej kev cai siab;

- xav phem cais tsis raws li rau koj tus kheej kev paub, achievements, kev txawj ntse;

- txhav fixation nyob rau shortcomings thiab yuam kev;

- muaj zog xob thuam;

- ib tug nkag siab ntawm kev txhaum rau me yuam kev los yog xav txog tej yam;

- lub siab xav nyob rau hauv tej txoj kev mus ntsib cov miv nyuas ntawm lwm tus neeg, txawm lub siab complexity ntawm neeg ua hauj lwm los yog unenforceability.

Yog hais tias koj nrhiav tau koj tus kheej nyob rau hauv tsawg kawg ib tug ntawm cov saum toj no nta, ces koj perfectionism. Yuav ua li cas yog nws thiab dab tsi yog nws cov tsos mob, uas peb tau kawm. Tam sim no peb yuav tsum to taub qhov tseeb seb nws yog ua tau kom tau tshem ntawm nws yog hais tias nws los ua pathological.

Peb kev cai rau pov tseg

Yog hais tias perfectionism, lub ntsiab txhais ntawm uas yog nyob rau hauv lub dictionaries ntawm philosophy, tau los ua ib tug neurosis, obsessive siab, koj yuav tsum sab laj nrog ib tug kev puas siab ntsws. Nws yuav pab kom kuj mus kev nyuaj siab thiab tshem tawm cov pathology. Tab sis muaj cov kev cai uas yuav pab txhawb fixation perfectionist rau hauv no:

1. Tsis txhob noj thuam

Nws yog ib qhov tseeb hais tias yog ib tug neeg tau ua txhua yam kom tau ib tug tshwm sim, ces tus thuam yuav yog ib tug txaj muag rau nws. Tsis txhob noj ib yam nkaus thiab tiag. Nco ntsoov: txhua leej txhua tus siab nyob ib ncig kev muaj tiag los ntawm lub plaub ntawm kev, thiab thov txhua leej txhua tus tsuas unrealistic.

2. objectively soj ntsuam cov kev tshwm sim

Qhov no yog los txo cov kev nyuaj siab zoo tshaj. Piv txwv li, yog tias ib tug ncaj A cia li flunked ib txoj kev kuaj, nws yog tsis zoo li yuav tsum tau raug ntiab tawm ntawm lub koom haum rau qhov no. Thiab yeej nws yuav tsis tau ib tug disgrace. Nws cia li yuav tau rov-tau cov khoom thiab txhua yam.

3. Nyob twj ywm

Nyob rau ib lub sij hawm thaum muaj ib haiv neeg rau lub zoo meej tshwm sim, tsis txhob tam sim ntawd, abstracted los ntawm qhov teeb meem no thiab muab ib ob peb ntawm sib sib zog nqus pa. Tam sim no mus ntxiv.

Yog li ntawd, peb hais rau koj txog cov tshwm sim ntawm perfectionism: nws yog dab tsi, dab tsi yog qhov tshwm sim thiab cov kev cai kam nrog nws. Ntawm cov hoob kawm, tus zoo tagnrho cov nqi striving rau, tab sis raws li ntev raws li nws tsis ua mob rau koj puas siab puas ntsws noj qab haus huv.