Yuav ua li cas tsis lwj tus me nyuam: tswv yim rau cov niam txiv

Hlub niam txiv mej lwj tus me nyuam yuav tsis tau yooj yim. Nws yuav ua tau ib tug luag hauj lwm mus kom ze rau cev xeeb tub, kom huv si npaj rau motherhood thiab cov txiv, tab sis tom qab lub tsos ntawm qhov ntev-awaited tus me nyuam ntawm tag nrho cov tswv yim thiab nyeem heev heev cov phau ntawv ntawm cov kev cai rau tej yog vim li cas tsis nco qab lawm.

Pom zoo rau cov niam txiv, ntau yam tswv yim kom zoo upbringing thiab kev loj hlob ntawm cov me nyuam niaj hnub no yog muaj nyob rau hauv ib yam ntawm cov muaj ntaub ntawv qhov chaw. Tab sis nws feem ntau tshwm sim hais tias cov niam txiv rau ib ntev lub sij hawm tsis paub txog qhov teeb meem nyob rau hauv nws tsev neeg. Thaum zibntab tus me nyuam yuav khees, hloov qhov teeb meem no thiab thov lwm nta ntawm kev kawm ntawv yog heev problematic.

Common Yuam kev nyob hauv upbringing

Tsis muaj leej twg txaus niam txiv yuav tsis xav kom lawv cov kev kawm ntawv los rhuav lub neej yav tom ntej lub neej ntawm tus me nyuam. Sawv daws xav lawv tus me nyuam rau qhov zoo xwb, thiab qhov no daim ntawv qhia no yog ib qho undeniable tseeb. Nws yuav zoo li ib yam li koj yuav ua mob rau tus me txiv neej rau nws txoj kev hlub thiab kev saib xyuas? Tab sis nws hloov tawm hais tias koj ua tau.

Feem ntau cov feem ntau puas ib qho teeb meem tshwm sim nyob rau hauv lub tsev neeg, uas tus me nyuam yog coj ib. Thiab yog hais tias nws yog ib tug txais tos thiab ntev-awaited, ces tag nrho tsev neeg suites nyob rau hauv lub ntsej muag ntawm niam, dads, pog thiab yawg, cov phauj thiab lwm cov txheeb ze xav nyob rau hauv tej txoj kev los qhia lawv kev xyiv fab.

Lawm, tag nrho cov xim thiab kev kho mob tom qab yug tus me nyuam yog tam sim no muaj tsuas muaj tshiab khiv ua tug tswv cuab ntawm tsev neeg. Thiab thaum xub thawj siab ib muag, qhov teeb meem no yog heev qub thiab tej yam ntuj tso, raws li ib tug me ntsis tus me nyuam zoo li lwm leej lwm tus nyob rau hauv kev xav tau ntawm kev kho mob thiab tus me nyuam. Qhov teeb meem tshwm sim thaum tus me nyuam loj hlob tuaj, thiab halo fanatical hlub thiab mob siab txog nws tsis dissipated.

Yog vim li cas cov niam cov txiv indulge lawv tus me nyuam

Nws yog tsis zoo li hais tias ib tug neeg txhob txwm tshaj tawm xav lwj tus me nyuam, thiab es tsis txhob tau txais ib tug mloog lus thiab ntxim hlub kas chim, hysterical thiab nros zeej. Lawm, lub yam ntxwv ntawm kev kawm ntawv thiab ib tug tseem nyob ua ib ke nyob rau hauv txhua txhua tsev neeg. Tab sis nyob rau tib lub sij hawm no muaj ob peb yooj yim yog vim li cas vim li cas cov me nyuam nyob rau hauv cov tsev neeg puas rau cov niam txiv:

• Peb xav hais tias nrog lub hnub nyoog ntawm cov me nyuam tseem muaj lub sij hawm mus fim neej tej teeb meem, kev cov nyom thiab tej teeb meem. Tam sim no los yog tom qab lub ntiaj teb no yuav qhia lawv cov me nyuam phem. Yog vim li cas koj feem ntau xav kom ncua lub sij hawm no ntawm kev loj hlob thiab cia koj tus me nyuam txaus siab rau cov me nyuam tseem yau muaj kev xyiv fab thiab carefree.
• Tej zaum koj tsis muaj lub siab ntev, siab ntev thev thiab lub sij hawm tos kom txog thaum tus me nyuam ua ib yam dab tsi rau koj tus kheej: noj tam sim ntawd lawv cov khoom ua si, hnav khaub ncaws, sib sau ua ke los yog noj. Cov niam txiv yooj yim ua rau nws, yog li txuag koj lub sij hawm thiab qab haus huv. Tab sis me ntsis txiv neej deprived ntawm lub sij hawm mus rau ua ib yam dab tsi rau lawv tus kheej thiab tau siv uas rau nws tag nrho cov lwm leej lwm tus ua.
• Qhov muag tsis pom txoj kev hlub rau nws cov xeeb ntxwv dictated los ntawm lub siab xav mus muab rau nws tag nrho cov qhov zoo tshaj plaws. Peb xav pom ib tug me nyuam nyob rau hauv tus me nyuam yog cov zoo tshaj plaws uas, cov khoom noj thiab cov khoom ua si. Muaj lub siab ntshaw yeej to taub, tab sis txaus kho mob thiab ib lub siab xav mus thov thiab fanatical pe hawm tus me nyuam muaj heev zoo kab.

txoj Kev Theej Txhoj khoom plig

vim li cas lwm tej zaum yuav ua rau zoo xws li zadarivaniyu heev heev cov khoom qab zib, cov khoom ua si thiab muaj nuj nqis. Piv txwv li, yog hais tias tus niam txiv yeej yuav luag ib txwm nyob rau hauv txoj kev los yog tsuas yog deb ntawm lub tsev vim hais tias ntawm lub yeej ib txwm tibneeg hu tauj coob nyob rau ntawm lub chaw ua hauj lwm. Los yog nyob rau hauv lub rooj plaub thaum cov niam txiv sib cais, thiab ib tug ntawm lawv yog tsis nyob nrog tus me nyuam. Thaum muaj yog feem ntau ib tug uas ploj lawm neeg laus ua txhaum lawm, nws yuav tau ua rau ib tug ntau yam ntawm cov khoom plig. Yog li compensating rau lawv qhaj ntawv, cov niam txiv tsa tus me nyuam huab tais lub cwj pwm ntawm cov "noj khoom plig."

Lwm vim li cas hais tias cov tsev neeg yuav lwj tus me nyuam, cov me nyuam raug mob thiab ceg niam txiv. Yog hais tias peb ua raws li ib tug me nyuam twb deprived ntawm cov xim, kev saib xyuas, kev hlub, thiab cov khoom ua si, ces, ntawm chav kawm, peb yuav ua tiag ua txhua yam thiaj li hais tias peb tus me nyuam tsis paub cov iab insults.

Zibntab - qhov teeb meem ntawm tus neeg nyob rau hauv lub neej yav tom ntej

Lub sij hawm "zibntab" txhais tau tias ib tug neeg uas yog siv rau tag nrho cov ua li lawv siab nyiam thiab whims. Ib tug me nyuam uas yog ib tug me nyuam yuav tsum muaj kev tiv thaiv los ntawm tej yam teeb meem thiab kev txhawj xeeb, kev loj hlob, pib mus fim nyom ntau thiab. Nws yog tsis nruj heev heev rau cov neeg laus thiab ywj siab lub neej.

Raws li ib tug muab zibntab txij thaum yau cov neeg uas tsis tau siv tau mus cuag lawv cov hom phiaj rau nws tus kheej nyob rau hauv neeg laus lub neej, nws tej zaum yuav unprepared rau lub fact tias tsis muaj ntawm nws tsis daws tau dab tsi. Tsis tau txais cov kev kawm, xws li ib tug neeg tej zaum yuav poob mus rau hauv ib lub xeev ntawm kev nyuaj siab thiab coj ib tug passive tos-thiab hais tias yog mus tos hais tias tag nrho cov cas yuav solved los ntawm nws tus kheej.

Tsis tas li ntawd, xws li ib tug neeg yuav tsis to taub yog vim li cas ib ncig cov neeg nyob rau hauv neeg laus lub neej lawv tsis lossi admired thiab qhuas nws. Los ntawm dab tsi yog tam sim no tsis muaj ib tug ntseeg hais tias lub feem ntau ntse, zoo nkauj thiab feemxyuam, ib tug neeg yuav ua tau nyob rau hauv ib tug lub xeev qhov kev ntxhov siab. Tu siab, nrog uas mindset thiab xaav npaj nws lub neej ntse nws yuav tsis tshua muaj neeg yooj yim.

Ntsiab tej yam tshwm sim uas nyob rau hauv cov kev kawm ntawv ntawm cov me nyuam ntawm yuam kev tau ua

Yuav ua li cas yog tias cov phooj ywg, cov txheeb ze los yog cov phooj ywg hais tias koj loj hlob heev zibntab tus me nyuam, tab sis koj tsis pom nyob rau hauv tus cwj pwm ntawm lub ntiaj teb no teeb meem ntawm tus me nyuam? Txhua leej niam yeej ib txwm nrhiav pov thawj rau nyiam tus me nyuam, ntseeg hais tias tsawg kawg yog puav, tiam sis txhua txhua tus me nyuam muaj txoj cai whims, tsis mloog lus thiab txawm hysteria.

Nyob rau hauv thiaj li yuav to taub seb qhov teeb meem tiag tiag tshwm sim, nws yog tsim nyog los xav txog tej yam tshwm sim paub qhia meej tias cov me nyuam yog puas los ntawm lawv niam lawv txiv:

• Nyob rau hauv kev txiav txim rau ib tug me nyuam ua ib yam dab tsi, nws yeej ib txwm muaj los yaum.
• Me capricious insistently yuav tsum tau tas li subordination. Qhov no siv tau rau cov niam txiv, cov txheeb ze, neeg zov me nyuam thiab lwm cov me nyuam. Cov me nyuam yaus tsis kam mloog leej twg thiab xav kom yeej ib txwm tau cov ntaub ntawv, nws hais tias.
• Heev zibntab tus me nyuam yog yuav luag ib txwm tsis kam mus tu tom qab lawv tus kheej, xws li cov tawg khiav ri niab cov khoom ua si. Nyob rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv no, lub tsev neeg tus tsiaj stubbornly thiab categorically sawv nws av. Ua nws mloog tsis hysterics yuav luag tsis muaj.
• Tus me nyuam tsis to taub lub ntsiab lus ntawm lo lus "tsis muaj" tsis txais kev thov tau thiab tau txais nws los ntawm kev txhais tau tias.
• Nws twb tsis muaj kev hwm rau cov kev xav ntawm lwm tus neeg.
• Tus me nyuam feem ntau txo nws hwj cov niam txiv nyob rau hauv seeb teeb meem, xws li nyob rau hauv tib neeg. Lub xub ntiag ntawm outsiders nws tsis thab thiab tsis tu.
• Ib tug me nyuam yuav tsis tau ib tug ntawm lawv txawm rau ib tug luv luv lub sij hawm. Nws yuav tsum tau tas li xim rau tus neeg thiab thim nws los ntawm kev txhais tau tias muaj.
• Pib qhia thawj cov cim qhia ntawm kev siab hlob. Nws categorically tsis kam qhia rau ib tug neeg cov khoom ua si, khoom qab zib thiab lwm yam. Child paub tseeb hais tias txhua yam nyob rau hauv lub ntiaj teb no yog tsuas mus rau nws.
• Nquag taws, thaum lub sij hawm uas qhia tus cwj pwm txawv xws li aggression rau lwm tus neeg, nrog rau cov feem ntau haiv neeg.

Hysterical - lub ntsiab txoj kev cov me nyuam manipulation

Heev feem ntau, teeb meem ntawm kev kawm ntawv yuav khees thaum ib tug muab zibntab tus me nyuam twg thiaj li raug siv mus nrhiav nws taws. Qhov no yog ib qho ntawm feem ntau txoj kev los muab cov neeg laus. Tej zaum hysteria yuav tshwm sim looj hlias, raws li ib tug me nyuam me me, nyob rau hauv sib piv rau cov neeg laus uas tsis muaj peev xwm los tswj lawv cov cwj pwm txawv. Hysteria ntawm ib tug yooj yim caprice paub qhov txawv yooj yim txaus.

Nyob rau hauv cov pa whim tus me nyuam tej zaum yuav ua tag kev cia siab, leej twg ua txhaum los yog quaj twj ywm. Taws yog nrog los ntawm ib tug laib, tshwm quaj, cov me nyuam yuav poob rau hauv pem teb, quaj qw, stomp lawv ko taw, thiab tej zaum kuj txawm tuav cov neeg laus.

Yuav ua li cas kom coj zoo

kev kawm ntawv cov teeb meem ua khees, Yog hais tias koj tus me nyuam tau pib siv xws li manipulations. Ntawm cov hoob kawm, tej niam txiv saib lub xeev no ntawm tus me nyuam yuav raug mob, thiab lawv cov offspring yuav heev thov txim. Tab sis muab nyob rau hauv no qhov teeb meem - li ntawd, yuav ua rau nws paub tseeb hais tias cov hysteria ua hauj lwm. Yog hais tias, tom qab xws li tus cwj pwm yuav ua tau tus yam tus me nyuam, xav txog hais tias tam sim no koj yuav puas tsuaj tas mus li taws.

Yuav ua li cas mus ntxias kom zoo siab tus me nyuam

Culture kev kawm ntawv ntawm cov me nyuam yuav tsum tam sim no los ntawm ib tug thaum ntxov muaj hnub nyoog. Ua kom nws ntshiab rau tus me nyuam tias qhov no coj tus cwj pwm tuaj rau tsis muaj dab tsi lead. Yog hais tias hysterics pib nyob rau hauv tsev, cia li tawm hauv ib tug me nyuam ib leeg nyob rau hauv ib chav tsev thiab hais tias koj yuav mus ntxiv rau kev sib tham nrog nws tsuas yog tom qab nws calms down.

Taws tawm - yuav ua li cas?

Qhov teeb meem no yog ntau npaum li cas nyuab thaum lub hysteria pib nyob rau hauv ib tug pej xeem qhov chaw. Ntau cov niam txiv uas ploj lawm yog thiab pib yuav tsis txaj muag ntawm lwm tus neeg. Thaum no tus taw tes lawv pom zoo rau muab ib tug me ntsis hysterical, tab sis nws sai sai tsis txhob ntas down. Tej cwj pwm yog tsis tsim nyog thiab nws yog lub feem ntau ncaj qha txoj kev uas yuav xyuas kom meej tias ntau tshaj ntawm ib tug muab zibntab tus me nyuam.

Yog hais tias xws li ib tug teeb meem tshwm sim nyob rau hauv ib tug kav, ib tug Cafe los yog nyob rau hauv txoj kev, cia li ib tug ob peb kauj ruam deb ntawm tus me nyuam to taub hais tias tsis muaj ib tug yog nrhiav rau nws taws. Ntawm cov hoob kawm, qhov kev ncua deb yuav tsum xws li tias ib tug niam txiv saib nws tus me nyuam, tab sis tus me nyuam yuav tsum nyob rau tib lub sij hawm kom to taub hais tias nws yog ib tug hais kwv txhiaj tsis muaj ib tug neeg tuaj saib. Koj yuav tau tag sai npaum li cas cov me tyrant yuav coj nws tus kheej nyob rau hauv tes.

Tswv yim rau cov niam txiv

Kom thaum ntxov tus me nyuam kev kawm ntawv yuav pab tau kom tsis txhob muaj ntau cov teeb meem nyob rau hauv lub neej yav tom ntej. Yuav kom pab tsim ib tug competent tactics, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog yog hais tias tus tsev neeg tau ib tug me nyuam hlob, koj yuav tau mloog mus rau lub tswv yim ntawm cov xib fwb thiab psychologists:

• Lub tsev yuav tsum yuav raug tej yam kev cai, thiab tus me nyuam yuav tsum paub hais tias lawv siv yog obligatory (eg, tas lauv tsis zoo ntau tshaj ib teev ib hnub twg, tom qab ua si cov khoom ua si ntxuav yuav tsum tau).
• Cov laus yuav tsum nyob twj ywm nyob ruaj khov kho nyob rau hauv qhov kev txiav txim. Kiag li tsis txwv tsis pub ib yam dab tsi ib tug me nyuam, thiab ces ib zaug ib lub daim ntawv tso cai.
• Tsis txhob indulge lub whims thiab kev ntshaw ntawm cov me nyuam, yog hais tias lawv yuav tsis yeej txoj kev txaus cai. Qhia rau lawv paub hais tias muaj yog ib tug tsis pub tshaj. Nyob rau hauv tus neeg mob qhov twg ib tug me nyuam ntawm insistently thov ib yam dab tsi, nug dab tsi nws yog. Yog hais tias tus me nyuam yuav tsum tau los ua pov thawj rau koj hais tias nws yog tsim nyog, nyob rau hauv cov ntaub ntawv no, cia los yog yuav. Yog hais tias nws yog ib tug whim, piav rau nej tus me nyuam uas yog dab tsi nws xav, yog tsis muaj mob ceev heev yuav tsum tau.
• Tus me nyuam yuav tsum tau muaj lawv feem ntau yooj yim thiab txheej thaum ub dej num hauv tsev, xws li sau rau hauv lub txaj los yog huv si hmoov av nyob rau hauv kuv chav tsev. Tsis txhob cia lwm tus neeg laus nqa nws rau nws.
• Tsis txhob indulge cov me nyuam hysterical.

Kev sib sau nyob rau hauv lub tsev neeg - tus yuam sij rau kom kev kawm ntawv

Ob tug niam txiv yuav tsum tau ua raws li niaj hnub ntsiab cai thiab tactics ntawm kev kawm ntawv. Yog hais tias muaj yog pog thiab yawg thiab lwm cov txheeb ze, lawv yuav tsum siab txhawb cov niam txiv. Yog hais tias ib tug neeg ntawm ib tsev neeg uas txwv tsis pub lwm nyob rau hauv txhua rooj plaub yuav tsum tsis txhob tso cai rau qhov no. Tag nrho cov neeg hauv tsev neeg yuav tsum tau kom meej meej to taub hais tias kev hlub thiab kev xav thov txim rau cov me nyuam yaus, ntawm chav kawm, tsim nyog. Tiam sis yog tias koj indulge nws nyob rau hauv nws thaum yau, ces qhov kev kawm no yuav pab tsis tau nws nyob rau hauv lub neej yav tom ntej. Nyob rau hauv neeg laus lub neej, xws li ib tug me nyuam yuav tau mus fim ntau cov nyom uas nws yuav tsis tau npaj txhij.