Qhuas ib tug hluas nkauj nyob rau hauv nws kev zoo nkauj. Muab nqi zog rau nws paub

Tsis peb feem ntau tham nyiam hluas nkauj compliments? Yog hais tias koj tsis teb lo lus nug no xav, cov lus teb yog - twv yuav raug hu "yawg." Yog, peb yuav tau qhuas lawv, yog dab tsi zoo nkauj, ntse thiab zoo nkauj heev, nyob rau hauv kev txiav txim tau mus cuag lawv los. Ib txhia hais mav nws yog txawm ntaus nqi raws li ib yam ntawm cov, tsis yeej ib txwm qab ntxiag luag hauj lwm. Txawm li cas los, Yog hais tias koj xav hais tias zoo dua, nws hloov tawm hais tias tseem qhuas kuv thiab ib tug hluas nkauj nyob rau hauv nws kev zoo nkauj, cov lus hais rau peb tsis yog li ntawd feem ntau. Nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb, cov txiv neej ntawm lub xyoo pua xeem tau ntau dlaim phaj thiab zoo nkauj tshaj qhia lawv cov kev xav, tab sis, tseem ceeb tshaj, lawv tau ua nws ntau zaus.

Thiab ntseeg kuv, niaj hnub cov ntxhais xav kom peb cia li zoo li compliments, thiab nyob rau hauv no hwm lawv muaj ntau tu siab heev tshaj qhov poj niam ntawm lub xeem caug xyoo. Yog li ntawd yog dab tsi tiv thaiv kom peb mus qhia ib tug ntxhais ib tug tseem qhuas txog nws kev zoo nkauj? Tej zaum peb tsis hlub peb cov poj niam, thiab qhuas lawv? Ntawm cov hoob kawm tsis tau. Nws yuav cuam tshuam nrog yus hnav zoo? Tsis zoo li. Qhov no yog hais tias niaj hnub tus txiv neej xav tias compliments - nws tus excesses, thiab txawm ntshai hais tias cov poj niam tej zaum yuav nrhiav tau lawv tsis muaj zog los yog laus-fashioned vim hais tias ntawm lub tseem qhuas kuv thiab. Nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb, tsis muaj ntawm cov tseem qhuas kuv thiab, txawm lub feem ntau banal, tsis ua ib tug tsis zoo tshuaj tiv thaiv. Ib tug neeg twg nyiam yuav tsum tau qhuas, thiab cov ntxhais tshwj xeeb tshaj yog hlub thaum noj peb caug lawv cov tsos.

Li ntawd, kuv yuav tau kawm qhov no yooj yim science. Nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb, yog tsim nyog koj lub sij hawm. Paub li cas yuav ua rau ib tug hluas nkauj muaj ib tug tseem qhuas kuv thiab, koj muaj peev xwm ua tau rau nws, tsis differing lub cev zoo nkauj, tsis muaj nyiaj thiab kim tshuab. Muaj peev xwm mus hais lus beautifully compliments - ib tug monstrous hwj chim uas niaj hnub no peb tsuas underestimated. Yog li ntawd, dab tsi li koj yuav tau qhia rau tus hluas nkauj yuav tau txais nws qhov chaw nyob?

Nws tag nrho cov nyob ntawm seb koj ntsib nrog nws los yog tsis. Yog hais tias nws yog ib tug hluas nkauj uas koj paub zoo thiab nrog leej twg koj nyob rau hauv ib tug kev sib raug zoo, ces koj muaj ib tug dav heev teb rau maneuver. Thaum lub sij hawm acquaintance yuav tsum tau nco ntsoov dab tsi nws nyiam tshaj plaws yog hais tias nws nyiam mus nquam paj nquam nruas nws tsos. Cia nws yuav ib yam dab tsi uas koj cia li hais, rau Piv txwv li, ib tug dimple sab plhu los yog cov zoo nkauj cov ntiv tes. Tsis txhob hnov qab txhua lub sij hawm them sai sai mus tshiab ntsiab ntawm nws cov duab - nws ua li nws rau koj. Thiab tsis txhob tso zoo tib yam nqe lus xws li "koj saib niaj hnub no", ntxiv ib me ntsis originality - thiab koj tus ntxhais cia lub paj. Hais tias "nws lub hnab wonderfully ua ke nrog nws zoo nkauj ob lub qhov muag," los yog hais tias "nws khau tshiab raws li yog hais qhia tshwj xeeb uas tsim rau ib tug vajtswv poj niam." Tab sis tseem ceeb tshaj, tsis txhob hnov qab mus ua kev compliments, tsis muaj teeb meem ntev npaum li cas koj twb tsis tau ntsib. Ntseeg kuv, nws yog tag nrho cov sij hawm tos rau qhov no.

Yog hais tias koj xav tau kom ib tug tseem qhuas kuv thiab mus rau ib tug coj txawv txawv ntxhais, ces peb yuav tsum tau ib tug me ntsis txawv mus kom ze. Muaj ntau cov poj niam muab tso rau ib tug teeb meem los ntawm kev uas neeg hais mav yuav tsum mus ua pov thawj nws tsim nyog raws li ib tug txiv neej, tsim nyog ntawm nws. Qhov no teeb meem yog tsim nyog rau koj los mus kov yeej. Ib txhia kev "Pickup ntxhais" (zoov rau cov poj niam) yog pom zoo kom siv rau qhov no tseem qhuas kuv thiab nrog ib tug muab ob npaug rau hauv qab, thiab nyob rau tib lub sij hawm qhuas nws thiab txo nws tus kheej. Piv txwv li, "uas hnav ris tsho zoo zoo meej rau koj - nws hides koj qhov ceeb thawj teeb meem." Qhov no yog ib tug theej "qias neeg" txoj kev. Nws yuav ua hauj lwm, tab sis zoo npaum li cas rau surprise darling ntawm nws lub siab dawb paug thiab originality tshaj zais insult nws.

Qhov loj tshaj plaws yog compliment ib tug hluas nkauj rau ntawm nws lub kev zoo nkauj tsis sound li ib tug stamp. Yog hais tias koj yeej tshwm sim los ntawm tus neeg, sim honestly qhia lawv cov kev xav. Txawm hais tias ib tug neeg rejects koj los yog thuam koj, tsis txhob muaj kev nyuaj siab, koj yuav tsum mus nrhiav ib tug ntxhais uas yuav txaus siab rau koj mus kom ze. Tsis txhob ntshai mus zoo li ua dag los yog funny, hais li koj xav. Tshwj xeeb tshaj yog, qhia rau nws rau cov neeg, cov poj niam txaus siab rau xws compliments. Tej qhuas ib tug hluas nkauj nyob rau hauv nws kev zoo nkauj rau cov neeg nws yog tso dag tso luag. Cia li hais "nws ob lub qhov muag ua rau koj npau taws," los yog "Nws luag tsis tuaj tawm ntawm koj lub taub hau." Hais tias nws tawm nrov nrov rau tag nrho cov tau hnov - thiab muaj, txawm lub feem ntau txias, nws cia li melted!