Lub txim txhaum rau reproaches

Yog vim li cas tsis raug nplua rau criticisms? Tom qab tag nrho, lub accusations - kev xav ntaus uas yoojyim tus ntsuj plig doog thiab nti. Tab sis, hmoov tsis, forensic reproach yog tsis nqa tawm thiab ib tug daim ntawv pov thawj ntawm ib tug ntaus lub plawv tsis pub. X-rays tsis paub kev xav burnout cwm pwm. Strife yuav mus nrog impunity lwj rau saum huab cua reproaches, kev txhim kho lawv muaj peev xwm los liam, liam, reproach, liam, stabbing thiab shpynyat uncomplaining txi. From xws li verbs uas muaj kev cuam tshuam lub essence ntawm cov accusations, xav kom maim li ntawm cov hniav. Tsis muaj zem lawv hais tias lo lus muaj ib tug ntsuj plig. Reproaches tshwm sim nyob rau hauv pem hauv daim ntawv ntawm cov tho-tej riam phom. Leej twg tus pin ib tug neeg uas muaj ib tug Awl, thiab ib co koob txhaj tshuaj rau ntxhw tawm tsam reproaches ntiaj teb no ntawm lwm tus neeg, ua tsim kom muaj lawv tus kheej cov kev cai muaj, thiab coj tag nrho tswj. Reproach - yog ib tug manifestation ntawm txoj kev chim siab los ntawm kev mob-zais aggression. Reproach - yog ib tug txhais tau tias mus qhia lawv tseem ceeb rau kos sai sai rau nws tus kheej los yog rau lub fact tias nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau kuv yog muaj lub siab xav hloov lub lwm yam, tsis muaj kev hloov nws tus kheej.

Cov kev puas siab ntsws nug hais tias tus grumpy poj niam: "Thaum koj reproach poob ntsej muag rau nws tus txiv, tiag tiag, ua li cas koj xav hais tias nws yuav raug kho thiab yuav tsum tau ntau tshaj li koj? Yog hais tias nws xav paub qhov tseeb txog lawv shortcomings, nws yuav tuaj rau kuv thiab ntxub kuv qhov no qhov tseeb. Yog vim li cas koj reproach ua kev sib ntxub ntawm nws tus txiv? "

Yog vim li cas rau reproach. Cov hauv paus hniav ntawm peb reproaches nkaum raws li ib tug me nyuam. Reproaches - ib tug hereditary mob. Yog hais tias cov niam txiv tsis muaj kev txaj muag rau ntawm lub rooj tsis tau zaum, peb tus kheej cov ntaub ntawv (subconscious siab) tag nrho cov ceev nyob rau hauv daim nplaub tshev "stereotypes ntawm tus cwj pwm" thiab yog tam sim no tab peddled reproaches rau "psychic nres" rau lwm tus neeg. Assimilated "tsev neeg kev lig kev cai" ua ib tug puas siab puas ntsws chaw coj tus cwj pwm nyob rau hauv lub tsev neeg. Yog hais tias ib tug leej niam, pog, tus muam, tus hluas nkauj, kev sau ntawv los yog cinematic cim mus los ntawm lub neej lub stairs reproach, hais tias xws li ib tug kab ntawm kev coj cwj pwm ua ib tug nrov cov pojniam. Thaum nws hais tias, "Tus reproaches yog tsis ua hauj lwm," nws ntsia zatyukali, tsis muaj zog-willed tus txiv, grinning thiab xav tias: "Nws ua hauj lwm. Txawm li ua hauj lwm. "

Yog vim li cas reproaches, nyob rau hauv tas li ntawd mus rau lub zaj lus qhia, thiab peeped nyob rau hauv thaum yau tus cwj pwm qauv ntawm cov neeg laus yog manifold. Ua ntej ntawm tag nrho cov, nws yog - luv luv ntawm kev ntshaw. "Kuv xav tias, kuv vam, tab sis nws muab tawm" - cov no yog cov lus ntawm tus dag miv nyuas thiab dashed kev cia siab. Kuv xav mus lob ib tug tub vaj ntxwv, thiab tau txais ib tug hloov. Yog no tsis yog ib tug yog vim li cas los cuam tshuam txog txoj kev chim siab tshaj accusations? Nyob rau hauv ib tug hai hauj lwm liam lub ntiaj teb no thiab lwm cov neeg, hais txog tej uas yog li brilliantly muab Jon Khob noom cookie -. "Xav txog nws tus kheej louts" liam lawv, cia lawv gnawing siab, vim hais tias dag cov miv nyuas.

Reproaches tsis tau los kev ncaj ncees thiab kom los siav qhov kev xav ntawm nws tus kheej-tseem ceeb. Accusations - ib tug zoo twj rau lub strengthening ntawm kev txaus siab. Uprekantu nosebleed yuav tsum tau tswj nws qhov tseeb. Kim kom tej yam, diamonds, tsheb, villas, yachts thiab kom hlub nws xav tau kev pab rau kom nws tseem ceeb nyob rau hauv nws tus kheej ob lub qhov muag thiab nyob rau hauv lub qhov muag ntawm lwm tus neeg. Thiab ces bummer - tus txiv (lover) tsis xav kom los yog yuav tsis khoov mus rau qhov xav tau ntawm filthy "tsis muaj hmoo" poj niam. Nyob rau hauv lub chav kawm yog stinging cem. Nws yog leej twg ua txhaum, kev txhawj xeeb, zoo nkaus li deprived thiab tsis txaus siab. Tab sis qhov tseeb yog vim li cas rau reproach nyob rau hauv nws cov kev siv zog mus "empty qhia-off" los qhia lawv cov "steepness" tseem ceeb.

Noj ib tug saib uprekanta tu. Yuav ua li cas yog cov kev xav thiab cwj pwm txawv nws ua? Ua ntej ntawm tag nrho cov, thov txim, phem thiab npau taws. Feem ntau, nws yog ib tug neurotic, tsis zoo siab txiv neej, khoov duav nyob rau hauv lub ceeb thawj ntawm lub neej tej teeb meem los yog cov neeg uas muaj ib tug inferiority complex. Nws tshwm sim hais tias nyob rau hauv pem hauv ntej ntawm peb tsis muaj zog, xav ua kom tau neeg, siv cov quab yuam kom txhawb lawv accusations Ya Thiab tej zaum qhov ua rau ntawm recriminations yooj yim - ua cim sijhawm, overwork los yog kev sib deev dissatisfaction. Yog hais tias ib tug poj niam moaning thaum lub sij hawm tsaus ntuj, nws grumbles hnub. Feem ntau cov ua reproach muab zais rau hauv qhov uprekanta. Ib txhia txiv neej pw thiab yog tsis yuav tsum tau, yog hais tias koj yuav tau txais Library los ntawm cov kev nyuaj siab thiab kev txom nyem ntawm lwm tus neeg. Yog li ntawd Makar, koj yuav tsa koj tus kheej, rau vajhuam lawv tus kheej nyob rau cov nuj nqis ntawm lwm tus neeg. Thiab koj tseem yuav tau txais lub zog ntawm lub siab ntsws xav hais tias nchuav rau hauv qhov teeb meem nyob rau hauv lub hauv paus ntawm accusations. Neeg accusations "noj hniav" puastsuaj los ntawm nws tsis zoo tus cwj pwm txawv, puas tas thiab poob, thiab yog sam uprekant no lub siab lub ntsws muaj zog pub thiab es rubs ob txhais tes. Lub sij hawm tom qab nws xav "noj", nws reproaches dua rov qhib tus neeg txhaum, ib tug siab ntawm luag hauj lwm los ntshai ib leeg.

Cov ntaub ntawv reproach. Qhov no tom riam phom siv nyob rau hauv ib tug ntau yam ntawm bizarre nrhiav. Cov feem nrov ncaj cem thaum uprekant ncaj qha nyob rau hauv lub qhov muag liam ntawm ib yam dab tsi saib tsis tau raug tsim txom, hais tias ib tug generalized ntse tsis zoo evaluative txoj hauj lwm. Xwm tau deprived ib tug poj niam nyob rau hauv lub dag lub zog, li ntawd, nws txig mastered rau lub kos duab ntawm lub hlwb ua nruj ua tsiv. Feem ntau direct accusations muaj kev cuam tshuam dismissive, contemptuous thiab insulting cwj pwm ntawm tus neeg mob. Piv txwv li: "Koj nyob nraum tsis zoo rau txhua yam uas", "khaub hlab, tsis yog ib tug txiv neej", "Koj ob txhais tes tsis loj hlob tawm", "Txhua yam uas koj tsis nyiam cov neeg." Direct accusations npog cov ntaub ntawv uas inconsistency, inattention rau tus poj niam nws tus kheej thiab cov me nyuam nws niam thiab txiv, tsis xav nrog domestic teeb meem, zibntab hauj lwm los yog lub neej nyob rau hauv general: "Kuv puas nrog rau qhov no dab qhov zoo tshaj plaws lub xyoo ntawm kuv lub neej", "Niam hais rau kuv, khiav los ntawm nws swb. " Yog hais tias koj xav tau ntau tshaj plev, hloov tau mus ncaj qha accusations, degrading kev sib deev meej mom ntawm tus txiv neej, "Koj - tsis yog ib tug txiv neej," "Yes! Thiab koj muaj ib tug me me nyiaj hli, ib yam nkaus thiab. " From xws li reproaches ib tug txiv neej yog muaj ib tug ntau ntawm kev nyuaj siab, txhawj xeeb thiab tsis ntseeg pib ib ce muaj zog nws tus kheej-tsis ntseeg, tej zaum nws yuav poob, thiab nws tus kheej-kheej, tsis tsuas yog nws. Tej accusations ua nyob rau hauv cov txiv neej kuj yog ib tug txiav txim zoo ntawm kev txhaum thiab thawb nws mus rau lub "leftist". Kho lub wounds ntawm tus txiv neej muaj kev muab hlob, thiab kom qhia lawv cov txiv neej tseem ceeb ntog nyob rau sab.

Tsis muaj tsawg heev yog comparative los yog veiled accusations. Hauv plawv ntawm lawv ntxub thiab cunning. Tej zaum lawv suab ntau heev tshaj dua li ncaj qha accusations. Tus poj niam hais tias: "Koj paub, ib tug neeg nyob ze yuav nws tus poj niam ib lub tsheb", "Tsis zoo li ib co ntawm kuv tus thawj coj yog tiag tiag ib tug txiv neej," "Yog, rau Ivanova koj ua luam dej thiab da dej," "Thiab cov phooj ywg tus txiv ..." Comparative reproach txuas peb ob tog thiab qhia tsis nyob rau hauv dej siab ntawm tus neeg raug mob. Nws yog nyob rau hauv kev txiav txim thiab yog muaj ntaub ntawv rau tus neeg to taub lub futility thiab tsim txom.

Reproaches siv thiab los ntawm nonverbal txhais tau tias: gestures views thiab tuag silence. Los ntawm kev quab yuam ntawm tej yam uas tsis yog-hais lus cem yog tsis inferior mus rau lawv hais lus counterparts, thiab feem ntau yuav muab lawv ib puas cov ntsiab lus tsis tau ntawv. Nco ntsoov lub "Haus luam yeeb" Turgenev, "Irina txawm lub koos tsis tsa thiab tso motionless, nrog ib tug phem luag rau ntawm nws lub ntsej muag tu siab heev; thiab nws niam thiab txiv, ib tug uas luag tej iab ntxiv reproaches, thiab lawv xav tias muaj txim txhaum, txhaum tsis muaj kev txhaum ua ntej tshaj plaws no. "

Liam tau thiab nws tus kheej. Tom qab ntawd peb yuav ntsib nrog self-reproach, piv txwv nyob rau hauv Turgenev lub "Haus luam yeeb", "Kuv cov kwv! Kuv yog tag nrho hmo ntuj xav txog koj lub tswv yim ... Kuv yuav tsis dissemble nrog koj .... kuv yuav tsis khiav nrog koj, kuv yuav tsis ua nws. Kuv xav tias zoo li kuv muaj txim txhaum ua ntej koj; tus thib ob yog kuv cov txhaum ntau thawj - Kuv ntxub kuv tus kheej, kuv cowardice, kuv mus da dej reproaches nws tus kheej, tab sis kuv yuav tsis hloov kuv tus kheej. " Ib tug variant ntawm nws tus kheej-reproaches yog reproaches ntawm conscience.

    Yuav ua li cas cov neeg ua li cas rau reproaches? Muaj ntau ua tsis muaj dab tsi, vim hais tias cov recriminations - yog ib tug xis paub rau lawv los ntawm thaum yau kab ntawm kev coj cwj pwm. Nyob rau hauv lub qhov chaw ntawm reproaches lawv nyiam raws li ib tug ntses nyob rau hauv dej. Muaj ntau khub niam txiv ua neej nyob, nyob rau hauv lawv pom, tsim nyog thiab zoo siab, liam tag nrho rau txhua lub lwm yam pua pua ntawm lub sij hawm ib hnub twg. Nws yuav tsum tau nco ntsoov tias puas hwj chim reproach softened suab nrov ntawm lub suab. Nws yog tsim nyog tias nyob rau hauv lub suab tsis nyuaj sau ntawv ntawm "kev sib tsoo". muaj ib co lus nyob rau hauv lub song Vaenga "Yes", "Yes, tsis muaj teeb meem dab tsi koj hais tias, Nws yog tsis muaj teeb meem dab tsi, thiab yuav ua li cas." Los ntawm no "yuav ua li cas" ntau npaum li cas nyob. Lub paradox, tab sis tseem muaj siab mos siab muag saib tsis tau. Piv txwv li, nyob rau hauv Turgenev lub "Ace": "Gagin greeted kuv nyob rau hauv ib tug phooj ywg txoj kev, da dej kuv nrog maj reproach."

Lub tswv yim yuav ua li cas kom tshem tawm cov reproach ntawm nws lub neej.

        Feem coob ntawm cov accusations yog tsis muaj tseeb. Ntxhais niam hu thiab yws: "Niam, no ungrateful tus txiv dua tsis xav mus noj buckwheat" - "! Ntxhais, thiab koj qhia rau nws yuav ua li cas koj sim, thaum nws twb ua noj ua haus" - "Op-Panko, ces nws yog tsim nyog los ua noj ??! .. "tus reproach - ib tug pab nyob rau hauv peb lub neej, lub siab xav mus ua rau peb ua nyob rau hauv raws li cov kev cia siab ntawm lwm tus neeg. Peb yuam ib tug txawv teb chaws yuav thiab lwm tus xav rov qab mus rau peb kom peb uprekanta tswj cheeb tsam. Tab sis peb tsis nyob rau cov miv nyuas ntawm lwm leej lwm tus, thiab muaj txoj cai yuav tsum tau lawv tus kheej, thiab txhua lwm yam. Uprekant feem ntau "ua phooj ywg" nrog ib tug neeg uas tsis yog tag nrho cov cai rau lawv tus kheej tseem ceeb thiab ib tug nkag siab ntawm kev txhaum. Tej zaum cia li ib zaug yog txaus hais uprekantu uas yuav tsis uv txhua yam kev accusations nres thiab sib tham zoo ib yam li hais tias, yog hais tias nws mob tsawv.

Kiag li tsis tau kev txaus cai. Nws yog ib qho axiom. Las mees lub criticisms tsis yeej ib txwm txawj ntse - yuav ntxias ntau heev tshaj dua aggression. Koj muaj peev xwm txhais tag nrho cov lus tso dag, tab sis yeej tsis zoo li. Excuses - pov thawj ntawm kev txhaum. Ib tug poj niam nyob rau hauv ib tug haum ntawm tig yuav unwittingly blurt tawm ib yam dab tsi ntxiv. Excuses koj mam li nco dheev paub meej tias cov validity ntawm nws accusations. Tsis defensively zoo cuab pob ntseg mloog rau yog vim li cas nrhiav txhaum, thiab yog hais tias lawv yog tseem ceeb, xav txog yuav ua li cas lawv tus cwj pwm los mus tiv thaiv lawv nyob rau hauv lub neej yav tom ntej. Koj yuav teb tau cov reproach ntawm irony. Yog li ntawd cov kab lus, "Koj yog tag nrho cov sij hawm pheej tsis tshua mus rau cov thoob khib nyiab" peb yuav xyuam xim teb: "Qhov loj tshaj plaws uas kuv tau ib txwm pom nws tus kheej nyob rau hauv lwm qhov chaw."

Yuav ua li cas nphav peb uprekant? Nyob rau kev txiav txim zoo ntawm kev txhaum, kev nkag siab ntawm txoj hauj lwm thiab ntshai kho siab heev. Koj puas xav mus rau tawm hauv cov qib ntawm cov neeg yog lossi reproached, qhia tag nrho cov kiv cua ntawm accusations tias koj tsis tuaj tos nyob rau hauv qhov kev xav ntawm kev txhaum, ntau kev txiav txim zoo ntawm cov dej num thiab kev ntshai ntawm ib leeg. Yog li ntawd koj tsis pub koj lub tsev uprekanta hauv paus rau kev nrhiav txhaum.

Reproach - qhov no qhuas nrog ib tug rho tawm kos npe rau. Yog hais tias ib tug neeg yog pomzoo nrog reproaches, ces crushed nws qhuas. Yog li ntawd, koj yuav tsum tau rub los ntawm cov rubble qhuas. Thaum lawv squared nws lub xub pwg nyom, accusations abated ardor los yog khiav raws li uninvited qhua. Ib tug txoj kev uas yuav kom ib tug txiv neej - qhuas nws rau nyob zoo lub neej. Yog hais tias koj xav kom koj tus txiv neej tiav ib yam dab tsi - qhuas nws rau nyob zoo lub neej. Yog hais tias koj xav kom koj tus txiv neej xav tias koj yog cov feem ntau charming thiab txaus nyiam - qhuas nws rau nyob zoo lub neej. Nco ntsoov hais tias cov accusations yog ua hauj lwm tiv thaiv koj. Txiv neej - qhov kev txiav txim thiab lub hom phiaj. Tus poj niam - ib tug kev sib raug zoo raws li txoj cai thiab muaj siab. Reproaches puas sib raug zoo, thiab tsim kom muaj qhuas. Kev sib raug zoo Builder - poj niam.

Muab ntau txoj kev hlub thiab sai sai rau lawv beloveds. Ces koj yuav tsis nco qab txog lub reproaches precisely.