Cov 11 lub tswv yim yuav pab tau koj yooj yim sib txuas lus nrog zoo leej twg

Tham nrog cov neeg uas koj tsis paub (los yog tsis tau paub zoo txaus), nws yuav tsis yooj yim. Ntawm cov hoob kawm, nws yog scary. Koj yuav tau mus nrhiav ib txoj kev rau koj mus cuag ib tug neeg zoo li nws. Koj xav kom lawv muaj ib co zoo ntawm kev sib raug zoo qauv, txawm yog hais tias nws yog ib tug luv luv lub sij hawm sis raug zoo.

Tej zaum koj yuav xav hais tias tus ua kom yuam yog hais tias koj yuav tsum tau ua thaum lub sij hawm ib tug kev sib tham: yuav hais li cas, yuav ua li cas mus nrhiav, yog dab tsi gestures siv, lwm yam Tiam sis nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb, nws yog tseem ceeb rau mloog ...

Tsis hais seb koj xav hais tias nws kev sib txuas lus nti, cov 11 lub tswv yim yuav pab tau koj tsis tsuas mus rau tham nrog tus neeg, tab sis tseem kom nws twb tsim kev sib raug zoo.

1. Tham txog nws

Cov neeg nyiam mus tham txog lawv lub neej raws li yog hais tias lawv twb tsis tau thov txwv tsis pub. Siv ib qho kev txaus nyob rau hauv lawv tej xwm txheej thiab dab tsi yog ib qho tseem ceeb rau lawv.

"Peb feem ntau xav tias peb yuav tsum tau ua ib tug hneev taw, qhia rau peb txog koj tus kheej kom haum, tab sis nyob rau hauv kev muaj tiag cov neeg uas koj zoo li tsawg npaum li cas nthuav, yog feeb meej nyob rau hauv ib tug sib tham rau nws tus kheej," - hais tias psychotherapist Tai-Ib Truong.

Nug cov lus nug txog cov tsev neeg, cov me nyuam, cov hauj lwm, kev npau suav, mus ncig teb chaws, kev pab them nqi. Txhua leej txhua tus xav nyob rau hauv tej, nej yuav ntog ib yam dab tsi uas yog tseem ceeb rau koj tus khub, thiab nws pib hais lus.

2. Kho

Ib tug zoo txoj kev uas yuav txaus siab rau lwm tus sab nrauv - mus hloov qhov kev sib tham rau nws. Haum yuav nyob rau hauv cov laus thiab cov yam ntawm kev hais lus thiab nws pace. Yog hais tias koj chiv incompatible nyob rau hauv ib tug sib tham style, hloov nws - thiab ob tug ntawm koj yuav muaj ntau yam yooj yim dua rau kev sib txuas lus.

3. Tsis txhob hnov qab lub zoo thiab hwm lwm tus neeg lub sij hawm

Kev coj zoo yeej tsis tau superfluous. Nug tus neeg yog hais tias nws muaj lub sij hawm thiab xav hais lus ua ntej koj pib sib txuas lus. Nws tsis yog tsuas yog kev sib hwm rau tus kheej lub sij hawm luag, tab sis kuj yog ib tug zoo txoj kev uas yuav ua kom lawv tus kheej. Nco ntsoov hais tias, los ntawm pom zoo rau ib qho kev sib tham, tus neeg yuav tsum muab kev koom tes nyob rau hauv nws kiag li.

4. Nug cov lug nug

Qhib lus nug koom nrog ib tug dav heev teb tshaj cia li "muaj" los yog "tsis tau." Lawv teem nyob rau hauv qhov kev sib tham, thaum lub sij hawm tsau teeb meem es sis.

5. Muab koj tus kheej nyob rau hauv lwm tus neeg

Yog hais tias koj yuav tsum tham nrog ib tug loj tus txiv neej, npaj nyob rau hauv ua ntej. Xav txog leej twg koj nyob nraum tham, zoo li cas ntawm kev sib raug zoo rau koj muaj mob nrog nws / nws thiab dab tsi yog lub hom phiaj ntawm koj kev sib tham. Yog hais tias koj to taub dab tsi style ntawm kev sib txuas lus xaiv, koj yuav cuag tau zoo.

6. Ua ib sincere tseem qhuas

Compliments nyiam tag nrho cov neeg, tab sis tsuas yog hais tias lawv yog sincere. Yog hais tias tsis muaj dab tsi los mus rau lub hlwb, zoo txo lub sij hawm no.

"Cov neeg pom tias lawv interlocutor disingenuous Nrhiav tau yam koj yeej nyiam nyob rau hauv tus neeg thiab qhia rau nws txog nws, -. Hais tias Truong -. Compliments tus cwj pwm zoo, txawj ntse, los yog tus kheej zoo yeej ib txwm zoo tshaj dua li cov lus hais txog cov tsos, tiam sis lawv tej zaum yuav tawm ntawm qhov chaw. "

7. Pom zoo

Nws yog zoo paub hais tias koj hais yog lawm, tab sis txawm nicer thaum lwm tus neeg paub meej tias qhov no.

"Nrhiav tej yam uas koj pom zoo thiab qhia txog nws - tseem Truong -. Txawm hais tias koj feem ntau tsis nyiam tus saib, tau txais ib daim ntawm qhov tseeb nyob rau hauv dab tsi koj hais thiab pom zoo nrog nws ua ntej mus hais lus cam lawv lub tswv yim" .

Kev tso cai yuav pab tau tsim kev mus, thiab qhov no yog raws nraim li cas koj xav tau.

8. Tsis txhob sim yog ib tug neeg lwm tus

Phim rau lwm leej lwm tus, tsis txhob sib zog heev nws. Yog li ntawd koj yuav zoo li fake thiab tsis qhia siab. Sim coj charmingly, coj lawm, txwv tsis pub neeg yuav xav hais tias qhov no yog ib tug yuam kev coj cwj pwm.

9. Cia nws yooj yim

Ntawm cov hoob kawm, peb yog feem ntau luv luv kev sib tham thaum peb xav tau ib tug neeg uas ib yam dab tsi nug, nug thiab qhia ntxiv rau. Tab sis qhov no tham ntawm ib tug series ntawm "yuav tsum tau ib yam dab tsi", thaum nws yog ua tau los tham nrog tus neeg, txawm txawv txawv, ib yam li ntawd. Ib txhia neeg yog khib hais tias lawv yog nkag tsuas yog tus "li cas rau", thaum txoj kev xav attracted.

10. Tsis txhob xav tias yuav hais li cas tom ntej no

Ib txhia neeg siv ntau lub sij hawm xav txog yuav hais li cas, dua li cov kev sib tham nws tus kheej.

Lynn Rossi, Ph.D., thiab ib tug soj ntsuam kev puas siab ntsws, hais tias: "Tej zaum koj tsis tas yuav teb ib yam dab tsi" txoj cai ", seb nws yuav lus txhawb, tswv yim, kev tso cai los yog tsis kam muab Tsis txhob tsom ntsoov rau tej yam uas koj ua." Tsum "rau hais tias, hais tias nws, uas los mus mloog, los yog tsis hais dab tsi. "

11. Mloog ntau

Tiag siab rau qhov koj hais. Feem ntau ntau ib qho tseem ceeb tau hnov hais dab tsi. Koj tsis tau distracted los ntawm me tej yam xws li kev tes hauj lwm, cia li mloog - thiab cov neeg yuav txaus siab rau nws.