Siv ntaub nplaum tawg khob los yog yuav ua li cas xav tias kev sib raug zoo nrog nws tus txiv

Txhua tsev neeg yuav muaj teeb meem nrog kev sib nrig sib to taub. Nws yog - ib txwm kiag li txheej txheem. Es, nws ua zoo meej zov cov ob peb txoj kev sib raug. Tom qab tag nrho, tag nrho cov neeg tsis nyob ua ib ke, thiab yog li ntawd xws li ib tug tsev neeg idyll, nyob rau hauv qhov tseeb, yuav ua tau skillfully ua si ib farce. Ntawm no yog ib theem xwb actor nyob rau thaum xaus ntawm cov kev ua si yog tsis muaj cov tawg lub siab lub ntsws thiab lub hlwb kev ntshawv siab. Yog hais tias nyob rau hauv koj lub neej nrog koj tus hlub twb tshwm sim teeb meem, tsis txhob tag kev cia siab. Nws yog zoo dua rau calmly tsom xam cov teeb meem no thiab honestly teb rau lo lus nug: yuav ua li cas los txhim kho kev sib raug zoo nrog nws tus txiv, thiab seb nws puas tsim nyog ua dab tsi nyob tag nrho?

Lub sij hawm uas mob siab rau thiab kev hlub, tus thawj kev zoo siab ua ke nyob lub hlis thiab tej zaum kuj txawm xyoo ntse nraim ntawm peb lub shortcomings ntawm ib tug neeg hlub ib tug. Hais tias yog, peb yeej yuav pom tias nws tus txiv tsis yog ib tug kev ntsuas ntawm lub hwj chim los yog ib yam nkaus thiab fond ntawm carousing lig thaum hmo ntuj nyob rau hauv lub tuam txhab ntawm charming neeg, tab sis helpfully subconscious whispers tam sim ntawd: nws - ib tug txiv neej tiag, thiab nws - tus ntsuj plig ntawm lub tuam txhab. Thaum lub sij hawm, cov "zoo" yog hloov mus rau hauv qhia tau meej heev zoo tag nrho cov kab ntau pom, pib ua voos, uas yog tus thawj kos npe rau ntawm tsev neeg muaj teeb meem. Yog hais tias lub flaws ntawm koj tus txij nkawm mam li nco dheev los ua unbearable rau koj, xav txog qhov no: tej zaum yuav tsum tau coj ib tug so thiab tsom xam cov teeb meem no.

Tab sis, yog hais tias ib tug phem kev sib raug zoo nrog nws tus txiv los, es, domestic teeb meem, kev qaug zog, los sis tsis muaj ntawm pab pawg neeg kev ua ub no, lawv preservation nyob rau ntawm ob txij nkawm. Nyob rau hauv xws li ib tug teeb meem no, psychologists qhia kom muab rau txhua lwm yam raws li ntau lub sij hawm thiab sai sai. Ntxiv mus, nws yuav tsis tsuas tau mus kev los yog taug kev nyob rau hauv lub tsev noj mov los yog ua yeeb yam. Tej zoo tseem qhuas kuv thiab, maj mam luag los yog kov - thawj kauj ruam ntawm kev sib nrig sib to taub.

Nyob rau hauv thiaj li yuav to taub yuav ua li cas los txhim kho kev sib raug zoo nrog nws tus txiv, nws yuav pab nram qab no puas siab puas ntsws ce. Faib ib daim ntawm daim ntawv mus rau hauv 2 qhov chaw, lub 1 kem yog tsim nyog mus rau hauv lub qualities ntawm koj tus khub uas koj qhuas, thiab cov 2nd - cov neeg uas xav hloov nws. Cia koj nyiam ua tib yam. Yog hais tias lub "zoo" ib feem muaj ntsiab lus ntau ntxiv, tus ua kev txhawj xeeb tsis yog li ntawd ntau npaum li cas - cia li lwm me me ntsoog tshwm sim, tej zaum koj yuav zoo tau los mus kov yeej. Ua siab ntev, zoo cwj pwm txawv thiab tshiab yuav muaj peev xwm pab tau nyob rau hauv xws li ib tug me teeb meem. Tab sis yog hais tias tus "tsis zoo" ntawm tus thawj coj - yog ib tug alarming teeb liab, cim tias seb thaum uas nyob rau hauv koj tsev neeg muaj teeb meem loj.

Yuav ua li cas kho kev sib raug zoo nrog nws tus txiv nyob rau hauv xws li ib tug yooj yim teeb meem no? Koj sim mus saib ib tug psychologist, tab sis nco ntsoov hais tias yuav daws tau lawv tej teeb meem nyob rau hauv lub tsev neeg yuav tsum tau mus cia li koj thiab koj tus txij nkawm. Ua ntej ntawm tag nrho cov, kawm hais tib yam lus. Xav txog dab tsi style ntawm tus cwj pwm uas koj xaiv rau ib tug dog dig sib tham nrog ib tug neeg hlub ib tug. Tej zaum koj thiab feem ntau siv rau hauv cov duab ntawm ib tug niam txiv los yog tus me nyuam, thiab koj tus khub yog ua mus rau qhov chaw koj nyob rau hauv ib tug txawv theem. Tab sis rau txoj kev txuas lus yog yuav tsum tau, raws li ib tug tsawg kawg nkaus, cov tib "vocabulary" thiab ib tug uas zoo sib xws ntau yam ntawm cov ntsiab lus. Nyeem ntxiv txog qhov no koj yuav kawm tau los ntawm tej hauj lwm ntawm lub American psychotherapist Erika Berna.

Secondly, nws yog tsim nyog los mus nrog cov tus khub koj xav txog dab tsi koj tsis nyiam. Tab sis qhia ib daim ntawv foob maj mam, tsis ruaj tsis zoo tus cwj pwm txawv. Tom qab tag nrho, koj lub hom phiaj - mus to taub yuav ua li cas los tsim kom tau kev sib raug zoo nrog nws tus txiv thiab tsis txhob ua ntxias lwm scandal. Yog li ntawd, cov lus teb replica sim rau perceive ntsiag to, sim mus saib nyob rau ntawm qhov teeb meem "los ntawm sab nraum" thiab txaus perceiving thuam.

Ua ntej teb cov lus nug: yuav ua li cas kom txoj kev sib raug nrog nws tus txiv, xav tias - ua li cas koj xav tau nws tiag tiag. Options: rau cov me nyuam, tsis tau ib leeg, thiaj li tsis mus rhuav tshem cov tsev neeg, yuav tsum tau ib tug zoo neeg ntawm haiv neeg - yuav tsis tau txais. Nws muaj tsuas yog ib tug kiag li txoj cai cov lus teb, thiab nws lub suab zoo li no: Kuv hlub thiab saib taus kuv tus txiv, peb puas kam ua hauj lwm los mus kov yeej tag nrho los xij, raws li peb kev sib nrig sib lawm yog tiag tiag nws muaj nqis.